Student Reports – Basic Course, class 2021-2023, 1th stream 

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Reports on Module 1 of the Basic Course “Systemic Constellation and trauma therapy”

Orlyanskaya Maria, Moscow

After completing the course “Systemic Constellations online” by Natalia Spokoiniy, I wanted to study the constellations in offline format too. I think this is important because some details can be felt and understood better in an in-person setting.

There was a lot on this module that was already known and clear to me, but it didn’t make it any less valuable. Once again we talked about the importance of the circle, what a request is, what kind of role does the client have, what – the constellator, and the Field, and who is responsible for what in a constellation. We talked about the importance of directing space to the Will of the Highest Values of the client and how exactly this is done. We discussed loyalty, bowing and its importance, and the concept of gratitude. How important it is to express gratitude for life.

N.S. told about 3 laws on which Systemic Constellations are built: the Law of Belonging, the Law of Hierarchy, and the Law of Balance.

We discussed in detail the process of coaching, why it is necessary, what it provides, and why it is essential prior to a constellation.

We discussed the different kinds of feelings: primary, secondary and transferred. How to identify them and what to do with them in a work.

Also on the first module we spent a lot of time on the BEMS Model ( Body, Intellect, Emotion, Spirit). We had already studied it on the online course, but it was much faster and easier to understand in person.

A lot of time was devoted to victim-aggressor dynamics, which is extremely important when working with big systems, and we also analysed the circles of proximity and responsibility.

Despite the abundance of theoretical information, a lot of practical work (constellations) was conducted, both by N.S. and by the students for practice.

Everyone participated in both the role of the client and of the constellator. And in spite of the fact that it was the first module, two constellations for the invited clients (not students of this course) were conducted, which helped students to understand what a constellation is like in real life.

My own constellation made me think a lot, and do an in-depth analysis of my ancestry. I haven’t gotten my personal result yet, but I feel like I’m on my way to it, and plan to go further on the 2nd module. 

Natalia Ptashnik, Moscow

Quite a lot of time has passed since the end of the first training module (3 months), so there is an opportunity to comprehend the significance of this education through such a significant time frame.
First of all, it is worth noting the changes that occurred in my worldview. Of course, by choosing to study with Natalia Spokoiniy, I knew that there would be work with an orientation towards the Will of the Highest. I suspected that I would have difficulties with it, because I could not define this direction for myself. This request, “What must I do in order to understand why I came to this course and to get the most out of it?” was a key one for me in the beginning. And it was paid off.

What is especially valuable to me in studying is the abundance of practice and acquisition of the personal style of the constellator’s work. After all, one can read the theory, but there is nowhere else one can learn techniques such as those used in live training.

For example, the technique of placing slippers as representative of victims in a constellation, paying attention to the micro gestures of clients and representatives, and seeing the symbolic implication in their movement are all the accents and foundations of mastery that I began to notice during my in-person education. However, one begins to be even more attentive to such things after analyzing constellations. This, too, is an incredibly useful experience.

In addition to theoretical studies, the experience of personal therapy work should also be mentioned. After all, personal therapy is an incredibly important part of becoming a good professional. It requires in-depth work.

That is why the constellations that I had the opportunity to receive on the course were of great importance.

So the first topic I was able to work with was about the development of a professional project. The request sounded like this: “What do I have to do in order to give birth to the project?” As a result of the constellation, the transformational process was launched, which is continuing to this day. And the project that was born turned out to be not at all what I thought it would be. To be more precise, it was not exactly that one project, but one of several.

The second constellation, with the request “What do I have to do to come to God?” dramatically changed my worldview and made it possible, among other things, to start working on a new project. In addition, I think both of these requests had an indirect impact on the presentation of a somatic symptom, which I was busy treating in the autumn. So the constellations also had an influence on the psychosomatic.

In short, the whole experience of the full-time education and subsequent analytical work led not only to an upgrade of my professional level, but also to changes in my personality and body.

Also noteworthy is the significance of the opportunity to participate in the Short Term Severe Trauma Therapy Conference. The experience of participating in it is also hard to overestimate. The chance to pass on the empirical knowledge and practical findings to the public showed that there is much for me to aspire to. How important it is not just to know, but to be able to communicate, convey, describe my work. I think this is one of the areas for my future development. At least, that is what I have set for myself to do in the near future.

And knowing how “magical” coincidences can be in the constellation, I can’t rule out that the most interesting things are yet to come.

Also, if we talk about the impact of the constellation work on the family, I see this as the next stage of my growth in the method. There are several systemic requests related, for example, to interaction with children that I would like to resolve.

Gudovskaya Yana, Moscow

It was an incredibly productive 5 days of my life, both in terms of personal transformation and in the ultimate realization that my true fulfillment lies in helping people using the method of Systemic Constellations.

Let me begin by saying that this really is a miraculous method, and if you are conscious of all its magic, you feel that you are a part of something Highest. When the Field opens, you will see everything that was hidden in your subconscious as clear as the palm of your hand in a constellation.

I saw on example how issues that people had been living with for years, and tried to solve in a multitude of other ways got solved in the shortest possible time.

I have personally experienced how effective the method of Systemic Constellations is. The Systemic Constellation literally exposes you and your inner truth. When I came with a request: “What should I do to feel more confident on the way to my self-realization”, I was shown my relationships in my family and how through them I could come to what I wanted.

I’ve learned how participating in constellations as a representative is never a random thing… You always have similar dynamics in your own family system that are highlighted to you by the Field. I literally cried when Natalia was talking about the Victim-Aggressor dynamics. It touched my Family System so much that it gave off emotions like these.

And one of our client’s requests directly mirrored the situation in my life that I had a few years ago. And I had the opportunity to look at it from the outside, like an audience member in a theater, and to draw important conclusions for myself.

On the educational process. Despite the fact that the classes began at 9-10 a.m. and ended at 9-22 p.m., everyone was excited and felt a tremendous flow of energy. Throughout the course, you, on practice, develop awareness and understanding of your desires, emotions, and actions.

One of the main points, of course, is the changes in my personal life.

With incredible ease and faith in myself, I found the job I had dreamed of for a long time. My relationship with my husband changed and I finally started to acknowledge and truly “see” him after 10 years of being together!

So I’m looking forward to the 2nd module!

Nana Dosyn, Moscow

As a practicing coach for the harmonious development of children and their speech starting from birth, I have been looking for answers to the questions of parenting for a long time. It is important for me to find and reasonably explain to parents the principles of relationships in the family, relationships with children and towards children. It is important to learn the key points, the correlation of development and relationships with children in the family. I know for a fact that everything is established in childhood.

I found out about IIS-Berlin by chance from an acquaintance who had already finished her education there. I realized that it was at IIS-Berlin that I could expand my knowledge in the direction I needed.

Soon I accidentally saw the invitation to the 9th stream of the course and realized that it was for me. The training took place in Moscow, in person, for 5 days – it was convenient for me.

My introduction to the constellations began on the first day of the course and straight away with practice. We conducted several hours of very deep, complex constellation for a client. It was difficult, very confusing in the beginning, but very interesting and fascinating. As Natalia Spokoiniy said: “We have a very strong group on this stream”.

I had a strong interest and desire to learn.

On the first day, I really wanted to feel and understand what it’s like to be a representative. I even asked to pick me. And then the interest kept growing. It was unclear how it is even possible to feel with your own body. However, at the end of the first constellation already I was placed as a representative and suddenly felt this impulse from within me. I understood exactly what role I was in, what I felt, and what I wanted to say. From the outside it may seem unbelievable. However, the method of Systemic Constellations learly reflects the client’s whole situation. It’s like watching a movie.

On the first day I already noted important points for myself and my work, such as:

  • Family System
  • the state of being present in the moment (very important for me in personal consultations with clients)
  • the connections between children and parents
  • maintaining the hierarchy in the family
  • acceptance of those excluded from the System
  • consequences of divorce

Each student on the course participates in constellations as a client, а representative, and а constellator. So there is an opportunity to experience the whole process yourself and see it from the outside.

We did constellations for each student of our stream. We worked with incredibly complex requests, handled heavy dynamics. It’s amazing how complete strangers in the roles of someone’s representatives can accurately describe that person’s situation.

In my constellation, I saw a striking picture. I didn’t even realize the complexity of the problem. I faced the truth and realized what had to be changed. I was able to rethink and understand myself, to determine my course of action. After my personal constellation a lot has changed in my life. Most importantly, my family and I began to live separately from my mother. This was my main request.

Systemic Constellations became the puzzle piece that I had been looking for for a long time. I was able to resolve my request. And also I now easily apply my new knowledge and skills to parents in my work as a coach.

I thank Natalia Spokoiniy for the knowledge and experience she shares with us. As well as my fellow students for their help and support in the process of learning.

Reports on Module 2 of the Basic Course “Systemic Constellation and trauma therapy”

Irina Zhadko

My first introduction to Systemic Constellations was in February 2018. And, to put it mildly, I was not impressed. And when I heard about this branch of psychotherapy, I didn’t understand why it was necessary. In 2021 I learned about Natalia Spokoinyi from an acquaintance of mine. I followed her work for a long time, watched a lot of constellations that were posted on Instagram, and decided to go to Natalia for an education.

“I was shocked” can’t even come close to express what I’ve felt. Just after the first day of studying I realized that I had the wrong idea about the method of Systemic Constellations. I was incredibly and pleasantly surprised. As a body-oriented specialist I felt the process of the constellations through my body. And the body is almost impossible to fool. My physical reactions varied from goosebumps all over my body to a chilling cold or a bright flame – all depending on what kind of figure I was in the systemic constellation.

The course is structured like this: first Natalya gives the theory, which we then immediately work through in practice. My first time as a facilitator was very thrilling, but Natalia helps us, and shows us the outline of the direction. In addition to the basic process of constellations, we also learn systemic coaching, which is just as important, because it is one of the components of the process. Each person has a certain part of life that needs to be looked at. And Systemic Constellations can illuminate the layers of life the good look on which can let the Field unfold and bring on changes in life. For me it was important to choose this method of psychotherapy, the one that brings invaluable benefits and quick results for the client.

During the course I was introduced to another variant of the constellation, that was founded by Matthias Varga von Kibed (mathematician). This type is a Structural Constellation called Tetralemma. This is a very interesting technique that includes 4 different representatives, and one representative of the Free Element. I was able to participate in a tetralemma myself. The client had the request “What do I need to do in order to reach my destiny/life’s mission?” Four representatives for different options and the Free Element were placed. At the end, it was clear in what direction the client needed to go to achieve their request. This constellation was incredibly deep and unique, as it was the first time I had seen how a facilitator works in a 7th-8th dimension. And when you work on such a high level the answers that come in the Field leave no questions. The key answer for the client was that there is no such thing as only black and white, and that it is possible to make shining light out of the darkness.

There was also a very interesting constellation with the request: “What do I need to do to help my son adapt in society?” The representatives that were chosen: the client, the son, the Symptom, and the teacher. Then the process unfolded towards the client’s ancestry, where the key figure was great-grandfather Trofim. How surprising that seemingly unrelated to each other in the family system things can cause all sorts of problems. 

I asked Natalia to do a little test on the situation, that was very important to me. I had an appointment booked with the osteopath, but the price for it was very high for me in terms of money. But I also felt that I needed to see him. The test showed that it was important for me to get to him, and that he would say something important to me, but the effect would not be apparent immediately. Two days later I went to see the osteopath. The results were exactly as Natalia had described in the constellation test.

On the second module, Natalia explained to us the concept of the Law of Balance. It is very important to maintain a balance of taking and giving between parents and children. The imbalance brings in the events that cause disconnection in the family system, and lead to the disruption of harmonious relationships between family members. Our parents give us the most important thing, which is life, and we can never repay them for this gift and, therefore, we cannot bear the burden of responsibility for it for our parents. But we are indebted to them. And how do indebted people behave in ordinary life? They may deceive, accuse, show aggression. From adolescence, children begin to rebel against parental control and demonstrate their illusory independence. It is as if we are forever in debt and project the resulting guilt onto our parents. And then we have difficulties with not being able to take. And this is the second cause of imbalance. This leads to problems in relationships with partners and with the world as a whole. There are also problems with one’s own identity that arise, when it is difficult for a person to understand who they are and what their purpose is. The only way to restore balance is to feel a deep sense of gratitude to one’s parents.

   This course covered a very interesting topic – “abortions, miscarriages and IVF”, and how this, from the perspective of the System, affects people’s lives. It was also a new insight for me that the “excluded” members of the System manifest in their descendants. After this module, I realized how tangled everything was in my family system, and that I had a lot of work to do to restore wholeness and achieve the result I was striving for. I want to express my enormous gratitude to Natalia for her empathy, attentiveness, and care for her students. During these 5 days we were fully immersed in the learning process despite the very difficult times in the whole world.

Orlyanskaya Maria, Moscow

For me, this module was the most difficult emotionally in all these years of studying. It revealed my personal processes, exposed a lot of things, and as a result, the tension that had been accumulating for years came out.The process was unpleasant and extremely painful for me, but at the end it gave me a lot of insight, clarity and energy. And most importantly, it gave me a sense of the value of myself as a professional in my field.

There was a lot of theory in this module, most of which I knew already, but it was useful for me to hear or go over something again. However, especially valuable to me was the knowledge on organizational constellations and Examples of how to work in this style. And I saw a lot of valuable things that I could add to my work to make it cleaner, better and faster, and with more results for the client. Moreover, I’m already putting it into practice and it’s having a great effect.

Special thanks to Natalia Spokoiniy for the analisis of the topic “Supervision by Constellation”. What kind of requests do people come to this type of work with? This is what I really wanted to understand, and N.S. did a demonstration of this method right on my example. And for that I am very grateful to her. Not only did I understand the method itself, but also the awesomeness and quickness of the “insights”. I saw how even simple actions or steps can be difficult for a client. How the therapist’s own resistance manifests itself, and how it can be worked through quickly and efficiently. As a result of this constellation, I gave back to my client (about whom I requested this supervision) the responsibility for his results. And although it was difficult for me, it still made me feel better, and I truly believe that I have stopped carrying “his chair” on me. This will give me the strength for my new project, and it will be born, and be successful in all respects, including money. 

The module also covered topics such as: Sheldreck’s morphogenetic fields, Kirlian photography, Albrecht Mahr’s experiment, the difference between shifted and intertwined feelings, twice hidden constellations, tetralemma, types of feelings and the meta feelings. Separately, the topic of IVF, abortions, and miscarriages, which is very important and relevant at the moment, was discussed. How to work with these dynamics and what therapists should pay attention to when working with their clients.

There was also a big constellation of a global scale conducted on this module. We worked with large figures and the dynamics of entire nations, since the dates of our module coincided with the beginning of an armed conflict and we could not overlook this fact. I hope that with this constellation we have contributed to peace in our big World.

Separately, I would like to note the importance of the fact that on each module each student conducts at least one constellation as a facilitator, and this is especially valuable because of Natalia’s supervision. And also each student gets an opportunity to work on his or her requests with fellow students. This also happens under Natalia’s supervision, which in my opinion helps everyone become better as professionals, since they transform their “pits” into a resource, which then brings light into the world.

Natalia Ptashnik, Moscow

The second module of the program took place in Moscow from February 20 to 24, 2022. It was an amazing, pivotal, tragic, and unstable time at the same time. And the fact that on February 24, 2022, the course of history has changed probably on a global scale, couldn’t fail to have an impact on the group’s work on this module as well.

If we refer to the general atmosphere of the course, the tension was felt in the Field of the group from the very beginning. First of all, not everyone enrolled on the course was able to attend, and it was great that the group was expanded with new students, which brought fresh dynamics to the studies.

Speaking of personal work, it is difficult to overestimate the importance of this module. The constellation on the personal request “What should I do to help my son adapt in the society?”, which was on Monday, 21.02, helped me understand the systemic dynamics in the family and in the relationship with the child and make important decisions regarding his education. And the work on the acknowledging and accepting my own ancestral system continues.

The theoretical information on the specifics of Organizational Constellations and working in a double-hidden constellation was a significant professional contribution. Of course, I never cease to be amazed at how accurately the representative perception works when the individual characteristics of the representatives are excluded and the figures are coded.

You can say that the process where the group participated in the the Tetralemma constellation is a separate form of art. It was a new and incredible experience.

It is also important to mention the opportunity of the constellation practice. The role and professional position of the therapist is becoming clearer. It’s still difficult to carry out the constellation work, but there is already an understanding of the direction in which I need to grow.

So the second module of the Basic Course was an extremely enriching experience. It significantly contributed to my professional growth and to the development of my skill as a constellator.

Gudovskaya Yana, Moscow

On this module I became a different person, having realized how deeply one can work. I felt new energy, and it gives me the ability to sense those around me in a different way.

I met new interesting and well-rounded people with whom I will continue communicating in the future.

It never ceases to amaze me how the dynamics of the client and his system overlap with those of the representatives involved in the constellation. The fact that one’s own trauma is often worked through while in the role of a representative. As I was representing one of the client’s relatives, I for the first time physically felt how the situation that was worrying me got unhooked and disconnected.

The second amazing moment for me is the work of the Field. How it, on its own, arranges and gathers people who are similar in their requests, the extent to which it reveals different sides of all the participants of the training, and how differently everyone becomes aware of their own requests and solving life’s problems!

I have tested myself in the role of a constellator, and saw more clearly the mistakes and difficulties that can only be encountered in practice. Since the knowledge I gained can be consolidated by starting to work with it! 80% of this course consists of practical work.

It was very interesting to work with a new format of Structural Constellation, the Tetralemma. With its help it is possible to see something greater, thanks to the information received from the free 5th element.

We were able to practice with the twice hidden constellation, where the representatives, not knowing who they were placed as, spoke plainly and clearly from their roles. Which once again confirms the inexplicable work of the Field.

I was an observer of a meta-constellation that works with meta-feelings and is able to work through extra-trauma.

Client’s story began when she was 5 years old and her father was selling her to pedophiles. As an adult, she had forgotten about this story until after many (around 7) years of therapy, it came back to her mind.

And the same happened again when, at the age of 16, she was deceived by criminals, subjected to drugs and energy manipulations. These events disappeared from her memory as well. And she was able to see her aggressors only in the constellation, that happened 5 years ago.

This time, the client came with a request: “What do I need to do in order to reach my destiny/life’s mission?” The reason for this request was the fact that when the client began to follow her destiny, it was as if she always fell into a deep pit and it took her a long time to get out of it and recover.

The key moment in the constellation was when the figure of the Fifth Element realized that it was The Darkness, the dimension similar to Thanatos, the collection of great dark power, which can be called “the work of grief”. And the Fifth Element noted that there is no death, but that working through, living through grief is very important, and if people close themselves off from it, a lot of hardship comes down on them.

To this, the client recalled that many of her past constellations had shown her that she often approaches Death one-on-one, and that this is very important because Death was giving her invaluable gifts – something very important that would help the client fulfill her destiny. In the constellation, the story with the criminals was brought up again, namely, the fact that five years ago the client realized that she had a great deal of unexpressed anger towards  aggressors. Her anger at them was so enormous and immense that to express it she would have had to destroy the entire universe, tear everything to atoms, and then incinerate them, too.

The client gave this anger a place in herself, let it be, without destroying the world around her or herself. She gave that anger a place, fully acknowledged it and the fact that it is impossible to express. And through this acceptance, anger also changed, to eventually burst upward in a blindingly bright white light.

And after remembering all this, the client realized that her purpose is to make light out of darkness! To transform darkness. And that if you give something a place in yourself, if you let it change you, then it will change, too. Light is made when she embraces the darkness, embraces the difficulties. There is no difference. Darkness is the beginning of light. “The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it” – perhaps this is about that.

In conclusion, I can say that the meta-constellation was conducted in a completely different dimension, on a meta-level, barely even touching the client’s family system. This type of constellation gave us the opportunity to look deeper, to work through the complex dynamics, to see the extra-trauma and the options for recovery from it.

In my personal constellation, I regained my self worth by looking back into my childhood and seeing the situation that I had never given any importance to, thinking it was made up! And when the puzzle pieces fall into place, and you accept the situation, and understand the reason for people’s behavior, something inside you becomes different, and you become different, too. Your reactions, your inner sense of yourself, your attitude toward people, your feelings will no longer be the same.

 Even my husband was able to participate in this module, which gave him insight into the reason for his condition. He was able to see all the feelings he had inside from the outside. By realizing whose feelings they were and under what circumstances they came, he was able to thank them and transform them into lightness.

I look forward to the 3rd module!

Nana Dosyn, Moscow

The second module of the Basic Course of Systemic Constellations went more smoothly for me, as compared to the first module, where I encountered constellations for the first time. It seems that I came more prepared mentally and intellectually and so it was easier for me.

On the second module we consolidated the information we already knew: what are the System Constellations, the 3 orders of love, who is included in the System, types of bowing. We also recalled the following topics: aura photography (Kirlian photography), morphogenetic fields. The latter is about how the collective subconscious works. We have analyzed how to hold the Field. We covered examples of entanglement, shifting, and double shifting.

We devoted great attention to the safety of the therapist in the event of resistance from a client or a need to stop the constellation. And we also repeated the safety measures for representatives – the standard techniques for exiting a role.

Everyone was connected to the topic “abortions, miscarriages, IVF, unborn children, twins”. We learned what consequences this entails, how a mother can deal with- and live with them, how to take responsibility for it and how to let it go. I think this is a very important topic to examine and analyze, because most of the time it affects almost everyone.

One of the key points I learned from this course is that Systemic Constellation is a therapy of the Spirit. The constellations are Spirit-centered. We examined the differences between the Soul and the Spirit.

For myself, I can highlight the constellation that was conducted for a VIP client. It was very illustrative of how easily a person can imagine things that do not exist in reality. These negative thoughts can lead to serious health problems, and in the constellation we very clearly saw the source of the client’s health problems. And the most important thing is that the client saw it, understood it, analyzed it and made successful conclusions for herself. And this is very exciting.

The new thing for me on this course were two times hidden Organizational Constellations. I found this method to be the most effective, accurate, and successful, especially if non-disclosure of information is required…

We also covered “Supervising via constellation” on my classmate’s example. It could help when you need to supervise a therapist’s work with a client with the help of a constellation. This will make clear what resistances a client and a therapist may have, how to resolve them and how to conduct therapy with the client efficiently and fast. Systemic Constellations are an amazing method of therapy. In the process of training, the teacher faces students resistance, but the constellation work helps to recognize this resistance, to live through it and accept it, to show the true meanings of therapy and the client’s behavior.

We practiced the method of tracing dynamics to the right line on a genogram. Each student had the line on their genogram found for their request, and then Natalia checked us.

We analyzed it on the example of a real situation in an emotionally difficult constellation. It was very long, and for some people it was the hardest part of the course. After that I was once again convinced that the role of a professional constellator is very important. It is necessary to understand and to have a fine sense of how to conduct even such difficult constellations.

During the module each student works as a constellator under Natalia’s supervision. This gives an opportunity to gain practical skills, to improve them, to learn how to navigate in the process of a constellation. And for the student-client – to understand their problem, see it from the outside and find solutions. I am thankful for the constellation that was done for me. It became clear to me where to go next, how to present myself, and the way my clients want to see me.

There was a lot of practice on the module: four-part model, twice hidden constellations, the constellation on the current political situation in the world (Russia’s recognition of the DNR and LNR and the special operation in Ukraine). I am sure that we, as future constellators, are doing a good thing for the whole world.

Reports on Module 3 of the Basic Course “Systemic Constellation and trauma therapy”

Irina Zhadko

The third module (for me it’s the second module, since I joined the program on Module 2) of the Basic Course is over. It was so interesting and exciting, that all 5 days passed in one breath. On this module we worked with very interesting requests, one of which touched on the dynamics of schizophrenia.

This work was incredibly interesting and useful for me as a clinical psychologist, because according to ICD 10 the schizophrenia diagnosis is considered a hereditary practically incurable disease. Clients from Ekaterinburg came to our module to help their 23-year-old son by alleviating the manifestations of this diagnosis. Since there was an equal chance that the dynamics came from the paternal or maternal lineage, it was necessary to work with both parents. In the process of the constellation, Natalia saw that the dynamics of the illness was coming from the boy’s father’s line. In the constellation we placed the representatives for the son, the Symptom of schizophrenia, the great-grandfather and also his victims, because it turned out that the great-grandfather of the son got through two wars, and served as a sniper. Hundreds of people died because of his actions.

In the constellation, we saw that the boy was loyal to both his great-grandfather and his victims. The victims stood higher than the great-grandfather. This was resolved when the figure of War, as the Bigger System, was introduced into the constellation. The following resolving phrases were said by the great-grandfather: “I’m sorry, but it was an order.” And by the victims: “If I were in your shoes, I probably wouldn’t have done any better.” After these phrases, the great-grandfather and the victims evened out on the same height level, felt the impulse to approach each other. After that, the Symptom stepped away, as his job was done.

There was an incredible amount of constellations done on this module that deserved attention. Here is another one of them. The client’s request was: “What do I need to do to help my daughter live her life happily instead of repeating the fate of my family members?” The constellation was conducted by Natalia from the 7th-8th dimension. It was top-notch. Natalia very quickly found a way to the client and was in resonance with her.

We went straight to the right branch of the genogram. The dynamics came from the great-grandmother and grandfather of the client’s daughter. The girl showed too much interest in alcohol and the sexual aspects of life for her age (14 y/o). Natalia placed following figures: the representative of the client, of her daughter, of the the client’s father, grandmother, as well as numerous grandmother’s abortions. Also the figure of the Symptom, which was named “Vesuvius Volcano”, was placed. In the process of the constellation, we saw the reason for everything that was going on, and it shocked me. It was an ancient ritual in which children were sacrificed to Moloch. I am still impressed by how the constellations can bring out the blind spots, and allow to do pinpoint, quick work that brings resolution.

I was a client myself on this module, and Natalia did two VIP constellations for me. For me these constellations turned out to be vitally important, because in my line of work, failure to abide by safety techniques can lead to adverse consequences that can affect my family. I will not dwell on this too much, since too little time has passed yet, and I feel that the processes are still unfolding. For now I don’t want to talk about my therapy in detail – so powerful it was. But I can already feel the positive changes. I want to express my gratitude to Natalia because her work changes people’s lives for the better!

On this module we worked on practice with the topics “death” and the “divorce procedure”. I was able to clearly see how important it is to end a previous relationship correctly. Otherwise we carry the past into our present, and there may not be room for a new partner in the new relationship.

It was an incredible learning experience! And I’m looking forward to the new module.

Orlyanskaya Maria, Moscow

This module was special, even magical for me. It’s significant just how much  of the subtleties of the constellation work were finally integrated into me. I began not just to know them, but to experience them, to feel them, and simply transmit them. And, in my opinion, the most important thing in the work of a constellation facilitator (constellator) is to be a good conductor of the knowledge that comes from the Field, without admixing my own personal biases.

I would like to make a special mention of how important it was for me to see in practice how N.S. introduced the 4-part model (BEMS) into the regular constellation. It makes it easier and quicker to show the client what is hindering him and how to change it. This model involves placing the different parts that make up a person: Spirit, Body, Emotions, and Intellect.

I would like to elaborate on this very complex and profound constellation.

The client had 3 requests that intersected with each other:

  1. to have 3 clients for constellations each month beginning in July of this year;
  2. to implement all her talents in her life in a harmonious and safe way;
  3. to mitigate extreme mood swings and turn them into smoother ones.

N.S. placed the figures of:

  • the client’s representative
  • her Goal (to achieve her full potential)
  • client’s Body
  • her Emotions
  • her Intellect
  • and her Spirit
  • the Symptom that was named Concrete
  • clients with money
  • something that we have to see right now

At first Spirit and Intellect were much taller than the other parts, Emotions were sitting. The Client’s representative “was hiding” from the Spirit. Symptom Concrete kept Spirit from moving.

After thanking Spirit for this, and expressing a willingness to look at someone very important in the System, the constellation unfolded very quickly and it became apparent that on the client’s father side of the family there were a lot of aggressors and victims, and all of them had serious distortions. of their spiritual beliefs. In their lifetime, substitutions of the spiritual values happened, and also a taboo was placed on joy. And there were many victims who were led to spiritual death under the guise of high spirituality (as if their Spirit had been turned inside out).

And after resolving phrases (that both those who led people to live by the dead face of the God, and their victims are all part of the client) and the bow with love and respect to the aggressors and victims Goal approached the Client, and Intellect returned to its normal size. The Goal asked everyone to smile. N.S. stated resolving phrases about how those people didn’t have a chance to care about their emotions, but this approach didn’t work for the Client; that the Client took them all into her heart, and inside of it they could feel and express their emotions. After that, all the parts gathered in a circle around the Goal and little by little began to smile. After taking the resource from these ancestors, the client felt support in the form of the wall behind her back, and also tremendous assistance, and potential.

The Goal then stood on a chair and clients approached the representative. This showed that the Client was ready to work with her future clients and willing to benefit them.

As I study on the modules and actively work on myself, and with the clients, I always have an eye on my state of mind.

For the first time on the course, my state of mind finally turned to lightness, to happiness, to pleasure in what was going on. All the things I didn’t like didn’t go away, though. They just stopped irritating me anymore. I realized that I had reached a new level in my work, as evidenced by all the roles I was chosen for during the five days of this module.

On this module there was, as usual, a huge amount of practice, which I find incredibly useful for both myself and the learning process itself.

We had clients with very serious requests, such as schizophrenia:

Clients from Yekaterinburg came to our module with a request to help their 23-year-old son to lessen or remove his schizophrenia diagnosis.

Initially only the mother wanted to fly in, but N.S. saw that the dynamics were most likely coming from the child’s father’s side, and warned the client about this. In the end, they accomplished a heroic feat – both she and her husband came. In the the constellation itself, N.S. saw that the dynamic of the illness was indeed coming from the father’s side. And in the course of the constellation she placed following representatives:

  • the Son;
  • the symptom Schizophrenia;
  • the Great-grandfathers;
  • his Victims, as it turned out that great-grandfather got through two wars, served as a sniper, and killed many people;
  • the figure of War as the Bigger System.

In the constellation, it became apparent that the son was loyal to both his great-grandfather and his victims. The Victims stood taller than the great-grandfather.

N.S. solved this situation through the resolving phrases the great-grandfather said to the Victims: “I’m sorry, but it was an order.” And Victims said to him: “If I were in your shoes, I probably wouldn’t have done any better.” After these phrases, the great-grandfather and the victims evened out on the same height level, they slowly approached each other, and then took each other’s hands, and the Symptom stepped away, because we saw what he was pointing out to us…

Once again I saw on example how important it is when clients are ready for work; how easily and quickly they allow the constellation to unfold and heal the System. It was important for me to see how you can work with parents when they are both willing to accept the problem and look for a solution. I look forward to hearing how their son’s life has changed.

Another delightful constellation by N.S. on this module was with a client who had several requests at once:

  1. about her 14 y/o daughter, who is showing too much interest for her age in alcohol and sex life;
  2. to help her daughter behave appropriately and set boundaries;
  3. for client herself to regain her confidence and improve self-esteem,
  4. and to stop shutting herself off from the male half of the world.

N.S. masterfully conducted an integral constellation for her.

Natalya did the constellation work on 7th-8th dimension. It was top-notch. N.S. was in good resonance with the client.

N.S. checked her guess on the genogram. The dynamics went from the client’s grandmother and father.

Natalia placed following figures:

  • the representative of the client
  • of her daughter
  • her father
  • her grandmother
  • and also numerous grandmother’s abortions
  • the Symptom, which was named “Vesuvius Volcano”

In the process of the constellation we saw the reason for everything that was happening, and it was horrible, but such is life: we saw an ancient ritual in which children were sacrificed to Moloch after sexual acts performed on them.

I marvel at how, with the help of constellations, one can quickly identify the blind spots and resolve the situation that prevents a person from living a happy life.

I would also like to mention that I have known for a long time that it doesn’t matter what kind of request you are working with… because the method is the same for them all. However, I was always intimidated when requests were about illnesses. It’s as if you need special knowledge or competence to treat these kinds of problems. But this is not the case when you work with the method of Systemic Constellations. You just need to have faith in yourself and faith in the Higher Power, and you will be guided and shown where the client needs to go.

And on this module I felt that my fear went away and I was ready and willing to work with the symptoms of diseases and help people heal in this side of life as well. This is a step forward for me, my practice, and my income! Since I’m willing to be useful to people in this field as well, that means that clients will come in accordance with my Faith and Willingness.

I would like to express a special gratitude to Natalia for supervising our personal works during the training. Each student on each module gets at least one work as a constellator, and at least one work as a client. And this is incredibly useful for me personally – because, as you know, the best education is the practice + personal transformation through your own hardships. My work as a client was done by my fellow classmate. Unfortunately, we couldn’t achieve much in time, and it brought out my personal dynamics. However, I saw it, and immediately mentally thanked it. And a minute after that, Natalia decided to finish my work and in another 20 minutes we went a lot further, which gave me insight, connections, and a lot of useful things. And on the way home I went even further… It seems to be the way the Field works – since I was ready to take more… the next step came to me, I made the necessary bows, and said the resolving phrases, and had a sense of completion of the work. And the next day I was chosen as the representative of true self-realization (in all fields) with money. It was an incredible role, combining feelings of happiness, pleasure, and ease of life. And there was money in me! Which speaks volumes about the direction towards LIFE. This is exactly the kind of thing I work towards with my clients on personal therapy.

And another magical thing was that at the end of day 5, Natalia felt and showed me that in my second request (for the entire course, I had two requests, and we only worked on one) there were  no more obstacles, and my goal was actively coming to me! It is possible to work on yourself by observing someone else’s therapy or by participating as a representative. You just have to let yourself be affected by this process. And that’s what I consciously did throughout the entire module.

Once again, thanks to Natalia and the group. I am looking forward to my fourth and final module.

Maria Kyntoyarova, Yakutsk

From day one we worked in harmony and very intensively. Lots of constellations were carried out. Personally I had three constellations: the big one by Natalia Spokoiny and two by students under the supervision of Natalia. All the constellations are very important for me and respond in my soul.

Natalia is a highly professional as a supervisor and a teacher for me. The way she feels people, their pain and most importantly where to go, where to “dig” (search) with a given request – this is for me what I need to strive for. In the last of the constellations, I saw that my grandmother’s word killed a man, although she did not want it and that’s what bowed her back and I adopted this dynamics. And in this I also saw that my mission is to heal or help people with a word.

 I also want to add that I saw almost identical situation from my life, only without human death. When I divorced my husband, he threatened me and I was supported by my friend and her husband, who at that time was a colonel of the FSS. And I told my husband that if he did not stop threatening, he would talk to the FSS colonel. After the threats stopped.

 In my personal large constellation I saw that I had a twin sister who died in the womb. The representative who stood for my sister spoke in the words of my real older sister, i.e. my older sister transmitted to me the feelings of my twin sister. In that constellation the request concerned the mission, and when I saw this event, I realized that I needed to live in this world for two and fulfill my mission in full.

 In the first constellation made to me on request “What can I do to become a mistress of my life instead of a victim”, we found that my great-grandmother tolerated a lot, since her husband was a card-player and lost his cattle and possibly not only cattle. And I need to bow before their difficult fate and thank them for my life at such a price.

I would also like to note the constellations made by Natalia and the group for clients. For one of them the parents of a young man Egor 23 years old, suffering from schizophrenia, flew in from Ekaterinburg to make a constellation at Natalia’s. According to the genogram, Natalia came out to the grandfather of the boy’s father, who was a sniper and fought in several wars, and there were a large number of victims. I stood as Egor’s representative and felt him rushing between his great-grandfather and his victims. Reconciling phrases were pronounced between the grandfather and the victims, after there was eye contact between them and they joined hands. The boy’s father Sergei said at the very beginning that he was a “technics man”, that is he has a technical education, and he has nothing to do with it. There were also small difficulties in determining the Highest Value. But at the end of the constellation he burst into tears, so sincerely pronounced resolving phrases, and looked at everything with completely different eyes.

The second constellation was done for a client who came with a request about her fear for her daughter and the dynamics of her system, the men in the family were alcoholics and her 14 y.o. daughter is already being drawn into alcohol. Here Natalia reached the client ‘s father and mother, who had many abortions, and then she reached her father’s mother, who also had a lot of abortions. The constellation also showed that the client’s father had a lot of sexual energy, because of which he even molested his daughter, and her mother had to do a lot of abortions. The client’s daughter inherited her grandfather’s sexuality and had already sexual intercourse with young men, although she preserved her virginity, and also had ambiguous relationship with her father. Then we reached very distant ancestors, who arranged orgies with babies and then sacrificed them to Moloch, stabing and burning them at the stake. The resolution of such difficult events gives a person a huge resource that the client received. And from her father, the client received female sexuality in a good way. And if she accepts sexuality from her father,  it is as if she will share it with her daughter , who seems to show her that she needs to accept it. And probably then her daughter will become calmer to show her sexuality. At the end after saying the resolution phrases, the client felt very relieved.

 The third constellation was done to a client suffering from bipolar disorder, with a request for self-realization and clients. Here Natalia applied her author’s 4-part model of a person: Body, Emotions, Mind, Spirit, to which she added Client Focus. Here the Symptom Concrete was revealed, which constrained and prevented her from moving to self-realization. During the constellation, it was found out that Concrete had the dynamics of distant ancestors who believed in something and led people, but this faith was joyless and kind of sad, as they were kind of aggressors who had many victims. At the end, the representative of Self-realisation told the Client that she wanted her to smile and enjoy life. As a result, the Client said that then she had a new request: What should I do to move to my self-realization and enjoy life at the same time. And she also said she wanted to go on a trip.

 I’m very grateful for everything to Natalia Spokoiny, for the organization, for coming from Berlin to Mosсow to share her experience and skills with us, and, of course, thank to girls fellow students for the friendly atmosphere, well-coordinated work and invaluable experience.

Kochurova Marina, St. Petersburg

I didn’t come to Natalia S.’s constellations by chance. Everything contributed to it.

At the beginning of the year I listened to a webinar about the so-called “dissections”, about a new methodology that helps people solve various difficult situations. In the comments I saw that it was not a personally developed method, but the Hellinger Family Constellations. This is how I was introduced to the constellations.

I wanted to learn more about this. I did an Internet search and was directed to the “International Institute of Systemic Constellations” under the directorship of Natalia Spokoiniy.

I got interested and started watching educational and informative videos on YouTube.

And then it turned out so that I decided to go to study on the 3rd module of the Basic Course. It was five days of productive, interesting, and informative work – theory and practice. There was even more time devoted to practice, and that’s great. Every day I was drawn in by the process. I am a beginner, but with the help of Natalia S. I did two costellations and it was an incredible experience.

How great it is when a person comes to us with a request about their unresolved problems, and with the help of constellations everything falls into place, the understanding of what is going on begins, and all the issues get resolved. How wonderful it is that with the help of constellations we can help people solve challenging situations.

On the course there was a constellation conducted for me on the request I was interested in: “What do I need to do in order for my blood pressure not to increase, and stay normal” (I was having pressure spikes).

Masha was a constellator. I was a client.

In the constellation it was discovered that my great-grandmother had a secret that was like a “clamp”. She had been repeatedly raped by her stepfather, and she endured it, hid it, and suffered greatly. I said the resolving phrases with gratitude, and I gave that “clamp” back to her, and took the resource for a healthy, happy life from her. Of course, I was in a state of incomprehension, but that really impressed me. Then my blood pressure gradually normalized thereafter.

On the course I also participated in constellations in the role of a representative. And I was very impressed by it. Before coming to the course I didn’t really understand how feelings come through the Informational Field, but when I was in the role of a representative, feelings and emotions came involuntarily, and that was incredibly cool. Receiving information from the Highest, including our ancestors, possessing that information is something incredible.

There were two very strong constellations conducted on the course. One was on the subject of “schizophrenia”. Parents came all the way from Yekaterinburg to help their 23-year-old son who had been sick since he was 11 or 12 (as it was found out in the course of the constellation).

During the constellation, Natalia S. saw that the dynamics was coming from the father’s side. The correct figures were placed, the father said resolving phrases. The constellation was masterfully conducted. The parents were very grateful, everything that was done in the constellation corresponded to the facts in reality.

The second constellation impressed me a lot. The client (mother) was very concerned about her daughter, who since the age of 14 has shown a strong interest in alcohol and an excessive sexual tendencies. In the process of the constellation, Natalia S. arranged everything in such a way that we saw the reason for everything that was going on and it certainly came as a shock. What struck me was that the cause was an ancient ritual in which children were sacrificed to Moloch. In the constellation the mother said the right resolving phrases. I saw a change in the person after the constellation, it became clear why all of that was happening and what needed to be done to correct the situation.

The course also touched on the topic of “abortions, miscarriages and IVF” and how this affects people’s lives from the the System’s point of view. I was personally affected and touched by this. I still have a lot to figure out.

I am very grateful to Natalya S. for her hard work, for her care and empathy, for her understanding towards her students.

I am very happy that changes are happening in my life, and an understanding of something very High is coming.

Natalia Ptashnik, Moscow

The third module was held in Moscow from June 28 to July 2, 2022. It was an incredibly busy and productive period. We had never before had so much practical work within five days, and I had the opportunity to work as a constellator under the supervision of N.S. as many as two times (previously we only had time to do it once per  module). Overall, it was the practical experience that was the main benefit of this module.

Firstly, working with a heavy request – the diagnosis of schizophrenia in a child, and determining the systemic patterns of such severe trauma that leads to psychopathic disorders – is already a gift in itself for the novice constellator. And the opportunity to experience this work firsthand and make sure that there is no need to fear the severity of the Symptom can contribute to further professional growth. After all, the more severe the trauma is, the more significant the resource can return to the Family System.

Secondly, during the module we also mastered the handling of requests from the clients with BAR (Bipolar Affective Disorder) and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) in the System, which is a completely different level of training for a constellator.

In the course of the work, some difficulties arose as well. For instance, personal dynamics (it seems to go all the way back to my mother, then my grandmother, her father, and great-grandmother) contributed to me being in a somewhat tense state, lethargic, and losing energy throughout the training.

This was reflected in the second practice as well, when forgetting to check the representatives, and giving in to the usual patterns of psychotherapy I chose to work with a figure in the constellation, that could not bring the therapy to the original trauma. As a result, the constellation only slightly shifted the client’s request. But this incident was incredibly important from the point of view of further professional growth.

Now I have realised, firstly, how important it is to remember to check feeling in roles, and not to rely only on the representative perception of the group members. And secondly, I realized what exactly we are looking for in a client’s System. It is a traumatic event, state, or feeling that is related to a threat to life or contributes to survival. And it is the key to choosing the right final point of a constellation

These are the conclusions that N.S.’s work with this same request led me to after my session was over.

I should also further practice formulating resolving phrases so that they are more congruent with the client’s request and personal characteristics.

The following three constellations were the most notable.

The first was about E.’s schizophrenia (a young man, 23 y/o). The clients were his parents, who had flown to Moscow from another city specifically for that. The constellation showed how critical for the creation of a psychopathic symptom is the presence of an Aggressor in the System who is responsible for multiple casualties, even if it all was done in the name of the Motherland during the war. For example, Yegor’s great-grandfather, his father’s grandfather, served as a sniper during the Finnish and World Wars and was forced to kill. Yegor’s father acknowledged and accepted these victims in his heart, which should help the patient’s healing. In any case, Yegor’s parents were deeply impressed by this image.

The second constellation was for Olga, who was worried about her daughter, who allegedly suffered from BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). Despite the fact that the girl is only 14 years old, she is already drawn to alcohol.

The integral constellation was conducted, as O. also had other requests about finances and relations with men and other people around her, since the client does not trust anyone and works in the office almost alone, without any employees. The dynamics of these requests also came from the client’s father lineage, so it was decided to include them in the work.

The main symptom that represented everything heavy in the client’s System linked to these requests was called Vesuvius. This constellation was an example of how multiple abortions can affect the System. Both the client’s mother and grandmother had an enormous number of abortions.

In addition, the men of this System manifested distressing sexual tendencies towards incestuous relationships.When NS placed these children in the constellation (lots of little black objects like charging cords, microphones, etc. in black cases), N.S. had an image of terrible sacrifices to Moloch from a distant time come to her, when children were first molested and then pierced with a spear and thrown on the pyre. Most likely, all of that really happened in the client’s System in ancient times. Of course, such heavy dynamics can’t be without effect on the descendants. Being able to acknowledge these sacrifices, and take them to her heart gave the client hope for her daughter’s recovery and harmonization of her own relationships with people.

Moreover, the client saw things that she had tried to ignore. The relationship between her daughter and her father may also have been broader than just that of a child and a parent. There was a real incest without penetration, only touching. This was shown by the figure of the client’s husband, that was placed closer to the final, he was constantly stroking and caressing his daughter. And perhaps the daughter accepted this favoredly. However, in the final, after the resolving phrases had been said, the daughter’s representative said that she was no longer drawn to her father. This was important to the client.

The third constellation of the module was for A.’s request for self-realization.

This constellation is an example of structural work, as the client had three requests at once. Two of them were about realization – the ability to safely show her talents, and to attract three or more clients a month for the constellation work. The third was about the desire to smooth out an unstable emotional state.

A four-part model was placed: Body, Emotions, Intellect, Spirit. Spirit and Intellect were taller than the other figures, while the Body and the Client’s Representative crammed themselves into a corner. And the main actor was the Symptom, interfering with self-realization – Concrete, it cemented everyone except the Intellect, preventing them from moving.

This structure helped effectively delve into the client’s underlying dynamics, to find a connection between the requests and the images of the cruel worshipers of the ancient cult, who deviated from the truth in the way they exercised their faith, although they continued to lead their disciples. Images of children being molested and sacrificed by priests, most likely very cruelly, appeared in the constellation. They believed that children did not cry out in pain but in bliss, аnd that was a service to the spirits.

This dynamic was most likely the cause of the client’s inner prohibitions against realization of her destiny. She was subconsciously afraid of making the same substitution instead of serving the Highest. It was as if the fear of it cemented her. And the opportunity to see it, and take all the victims into her heart, helped her to look at the situation differently.

Hence, the new module surpassed not only the expectations of it, but also all the professional acquisitions that the previous stages of training had given. Now the long work with the received material, and the reflection on the acquired skills and knowledge have to be done.

Gudovskaya Yana, Moscow

This was one of the most productive modules of the course. I was ready for the changes, and they came into my life.

I had three very important constellations done for me. The first was on the dynamics of twins, in which I realized that all my life I had been looking for my brother in all the men I’ve met. Meeting with him took place in some other dimension, like with the closest person in the world. I accepted him into my heart, and started to treat my husband differently.

The second work was about the fear of confined spaces, which was linked to the transferred feelings from my twin brother. From when, in the womb, he made the decision to leave, and I – to stay.

When I found myself in a closed space, I unconsciously replicated the feelings he was experiencing at that moment.

I entered my third constellation with the request about money, where I realized the connection between the correctly established order in the Family System and the flow of money. It is because money is the energy of life! And when order is restored, the energy of life begins to flow through you freely. The money came to me by itself the next day, from somewhere I didn’t expect it to come.

There was a lot of practice on the module, and each student was able to practice previously learned skills. There were clients with very interesting requests, whose examples made me realize that I need to study several medical diagnoses in more depth.

There were three strong constellations conducted on the course

In the 1st constellation I realised how one can work with the dynamics of schizophrenia. And saw how the child unconsciously took the guilt of his sniper great-grandfather, who had taken many lives during the war. And his great-grandson is now taking on himself his great-grandfather  guilt and sufferings, and they manifest in him in the form of illness.

The second constellation involved 5 requests from the client, and all of them were solved in one constellation. The great experience and the deep and clear perception of N.S. helped her to see the root of the problem and to solve it in the course of the constellation. The client’s constellation showed the connection between her grandmother’s multiple abortions and the sacrifices of children to the pagan deity Moloch. The client’s daughter was rescuing her great-grandmother by taking on herself pain and all the heavy family dynamics, which manifested themselves in a lack of boundaries when dealing with the opposite sex and unhealthy sexual attraction. The constellation brought clarity and showed the history of the symptom’s origin. As a result, the condition and behavior of the client and her daughter in the Field were transformed.

In the third constellation I saw how to effectively work with the request for self-realization using the 4-part BEMS Model (Body, Emotions, Intellect, Spirit) аnd how the client’s fear of self-realization can be linked to the distorted spirituality, and massive Victim-Aggressor dynamics of the client’s father’s lineage.

The relationship between the Self-Realization figure and the figure of Emotions was interesting. How important the feeling of inner joy is on the way to self-realization!

And how, by restoring the balance between these inner parts, you can achieve your wholeness and your goal…

This time I began to integrate all the information I learned into my practice, and took my first client. It was amazing!

Nana Dosyn, Moscow

For me it was already the third module of studying Systemic Constellations. I had a feeling beforehand that the module would be intense and dynamic. Because for me the second module was tedious and drawn out.

The third module was filled with practice to a maximum. Every day we did four or five constellations. We worked on very complicated requests of both students and clients.

My practice as a conastellator turned out to be interesting. The work lasted more than 1.5 hours. With the help of Natalia and as a result of the course I was able to experience the role of a conastellator very well. Throughout the whole conastellation I was checking with Natalia’s assumptions, trying to keep up with her and to hold the Field.

NS conducted a second VIP constellation for the same client. This client had 3 requests that overlapped with each other.

  1. The client wanted to start having 3 clients for a constellation per month starting current month;
  2. Apply all her talents in her life in a harmonious and safe way;
  3. Smooth out sharp mood swings and turn them into smoother ones.

The 4-part BEMS-MODEL (Body, Emotions, Intellect, Spirit) was used in the constellation. Spirit and Intellect were significantly taller than the other parts. The Body, along with the representative of the client were exhausted and crammed huddle themselves up into a corner. They felt sleepy.

The client defined her symptom as Cement. It was preventing her from moving. When the Symptom figure was placed in the constellation, it turned out to be Concrete rather than Cement. The Symptom was affecting the parts: Emotions were small, they felt bad, the Body was in a corner. The Symptom cemented everyone but the Intellect.

The Spirit didn’t give in and didn’t budge.

In the constellation, it became clear that behind the Symptom (Concrete, Cement) there were many religious ancestors who were divided into two camps. One group the client called the “black-eyed”. They led the others. However, the faith of the “black-eyed” led not to life, but to a “dead” God. They did not allow themselves to enjoy life, to show feelings of warmth. The Spirit was dying in them, not growing in their Faith. This made the client feel threatened, and everything inside of her cemented. This was also confirmed by Intellect’s refusal to go into self-realization.

The second group was the Followers, disciples. They were the cause of the client’s resistance, of the fear and apprehension of conducting her practice in a safe way. And of safely developing her talents.

At the same time, there was a big, beautiful figure of the client’s Goal in the constellation, who wanted to dance.

There are interesting facts, such as being in the role even before I was chosen as a representative. In N.S.’s constellation, I very abruptly and unexpectedly began to feel a boundless love that seemed to shine from within me. They were N.S.’s feelings for her first deceased husband, that she still didn’t let go of. This is the ability to convey any condition through a representative.

In my constellation, I realized why I started my practice of consulting mothers on their children’s development. My dad’s parents died during the war. My dad’s mom was supposed to come to her children by train, but that train was caught by land mines on the way. She died. The children waited for her very much, but were left orphaned. She was unable to give them her motherly love and care, unable to fulfill her maternal function. She had three children.

And now I go only to those children who need a harmonious relationships and motherhood, the love of their mothers. My work with children through their mothers is the unfulfilled role of my grandmother. Dad and his sisters really needed their mom.

It is worth noting that in the Systemic Constellations the client’s request gets unraveled in amazing ways. In one piece of work the representatives showed in a short time how important the client’s own attitude towards his partners is for the request to be resolved. 

There were several difficult constellations concerning the life of a child, because the clients had very valid concerns about it (fear for the life of the daughter, schizophrenia of the son, the promiscuous lifestyle of an adolescent girl).

The parents of the young man Yegor came all the way from Yekaterinburg looking for a solution. He is now 23 years old and has a serious mental disorder – schizophrenia. The constellation revealed that he had been sick since he was 11 or 12 years old, and the dynamics of the disease trace back to his father and his grandfather. Grandfather was a sniper during the war, he had to kill a lot, and as a result of his work there were a lot of victims. And, remarkably, after him, all the men in the family died of head injuries.

The same dynamic shifted to the clients’ son.

There was a strong resonance with the client during the constellation, vivid memories surfaced. After the resolving phrases from the victims to the grandfather, the figures began to come closer to each other. It was a moment of relief for the clients, the son’s Symptom went away, and the son’s representative said that he felt better. Here you can clearly see how the descendants take on all the burdens of their lineage, how it comes in the form of illness and suffering. And how important it is to deal with these issues. And Natalia’s constellation work is the best way to do it.

There was also an impressive VIP constellation conducted. The client started having problems with her daughter, who is 14 years old. The daughter was acting too freely, uninhibited, without any boundaries, was drinking and sometimes not coming home at night. At the same time, the client has a difficult relationship with the opposite sex. She is divorced from her husband and had a very shocking relationship with her father. When she was a child, her father used to severely beat her, while also trying to perform acts of a sexual nature sometimes (kissing, caressing).

In the course of the constellation it was discovered that the client’s ancestors had performed an ancient ritual of sexual sacrifice of children to Moloch. The client encountered echoes of this ritual herself, and it also caused her daughter’s mental health problems. Resolving phrases were said. There was also a strong resonance with the client in this arrangement. She understood what she needed to do for her daughter to begin to adequately set and sense her own boundaries and to stop leading such an age-inappropriate free lifestyle.

It was an integral constellation, because the client had several requests (to help her daughter to behave adequately and set boundaries; to regain her own confidence and self-esteem; to stop closing herself off from the male half of the world), in which N.S. found a “common denominator” and reduced them to a unified request.

It was a very unusual, eventful module. I thank Natalia for the new knowledge, experience, new information. For the new impressive and successful constellations. Systemic Constellations are a unique way of short-term therapy!