REPORT FOR THE MAIN ONLINE COURSE – 9 “SYSTEMIC CONSTELLATIONS AND WORK WITH TRAUMA”
Dmitri Blizniuc Chisinau
I am very glad I completed online training at IIS with Natalia Spokoinyi. Time passed very quickly – I still remember how I filled out the application forms for admission. The baggage of knowledge I received in IIS is the main confirmation for me that I did not spend my time on training in vain.
The most important thing I got on the course was a new look at the world around me. My wife, children, parents, work, and many other things in my life have become different, and more clear and understandable. As a constellator, I understand that nothing changes around a person by itself, as Mahatma Gandhi said: “If you want to change the world, start with yourself.” It was under this motto that every lesson of the online course was held, and the result was not long in coming – life is changing for the better, and you can see how not only my life is changing, but also my fellow students, for whom I am also very happy. In fact, Natalia Spokoinyi has many mottos applicable to learning, but I have singled out, in my opinion, the most important one.
There was a lot of practice at each lesson of the online course, and practice with real people, which was an important component in shaping me as a constellator. I taught theory, understood everything, knew everything, and then there was practice, and practice indicated those places very clearly where you needed to understand more thoroughly. I figured it out, then practised again, and again there were shortcomings that I corrected. And so after each time, I felt more confident in constellation work. The training methodology in terms of achieving high results in a short time at IIS is very well established.
I cannot fail to note the positive changes I have after the constellation, where I was as a client. A lot of painstaking work has borne fruit, and a harmonious atmosphere has formed in my home. And when there is a harmonious atmosphere in the house, then peace and tranquility in the family. It is amazing how the constellation in 1.5 – 2 hours can do what specialists in other fields cannot do for years.
I express my deep gratitude to Natalia Spokoinyi and everyone who contributed to the development of IIS for the opportunity given to me to learn systemic constellations. And also thanks to the 9th stream online course student group and everyone who took part in the practical classes that helped me to form as a constellator.
I wish everyone involved in my training, and especially the leader Natalia Spokoinyi, success in their work and the intensive development of any projects that will help people. I am sure that we will continue to work together in other formats. I’m looking forward to it.
Yana Gudovskaya Moscow
Today I want to summarise my year’s training. After 32 sessions, I can confidently say that my life has changed dramatically and is divided into before and after.
I fell in love with the systemic constellations method at first sight and realised that it is the fastest and most effective way to get what you want in life.
I was looking for an institute with fundamental knowledge that could give me not only knowledge but also practice. And I found it! IIS Berlin met all my expectations. Natalia Spokoyniy is a professional in her field and a person with a capital letter.
The training provides very much for personal growth as well as a good professional base.
The most valuable thing I got out of this course:
- Personal transformation. Changes in the family and professional sphere, personal growth. The changes in my personal experience give me confirmation that it is possible to change my life and come to what I want, which I will transmit to my clients.
- Lots of practice which gives you the opportunity to master the method and hone it immediately on clients. Practice in training, separately in groups, with paying clients. This speeds up the quality and process of learning. It gives you confidence in yourself and in your abilities.
- There is a special friendly atmosphere. There are many students on the course from different countries and cities. We have developed a peculiar bond between us over the year. We often meet each other outside of school and get together for practice.
- In the process of learning, one develops inner intuition, which one learns to feel and follow. This is a very useful tool that I now apply not only in constellations, but also in my personal life.
- I’m taking with me into my life the main rule of the constellations: “Give thanks for everything”, that’s my motto now!
The main result I would like to point out is that I have been practising this method online and offline since the summer and getting my first money. I now know who I am and where I am going. So with great gratitude for an invaluable year of growth and transformation!
Alina Krasnova, Moscow
The time spent studying flew by quickly. It seems that the first lesson was just a short while ago, and now the supervisory session is approaching! At the same time, the course proved to be profoundly transformative for me. Over the months, my life and character have noticeably changed. Many of the problems that were bothering me went away, my anxiety eased, and I found a new job.
For me it is very valuable that the education in IIS-Berlin is structured by Natalya Spokoinyi in such a way that each student seriously works on themselves throughout the entire course. There are new, stronger and more confident people sitting in the last classes, people who are ready for serious professional work, and I’m very grateful for the opportunity to travel this path with our 9th Stream.
In addition to in-depth personal work, the education itself is built with a strong emphasis on practice. The classes are very intensive. On each one there is a review of theory, of course papers, and of students’ questions, but most of the time is devoted to practical assignments and constellations. So all students immediately put what they have learned to practice. And this, in my opinion, is the most effective method of teaching such a refined and complex tool as Systemic Constellations. Natalia Spokoinyi points out and highlights for the students many subtleties and details of the work right in the process. And in practice details like this can be learned more quickly and on a way deeper level than pure theory.
And practice begins as early as the first classes! So even students who had difficulty sensing the Field learned to feel it in a deep and nuanced way through constant practice. My own sense of the Field got much better, and I learned to discern very subtle nuances in dynamics.
Students practice doing personal constellations both for each other and for invited clients. So it adds on to everyone’s personal work on themselves and to practice working with new, unfamiliar people. This develops our confidence and the ability to find an approach to a wide variety of clients.
The theoretical part of the course is also largely presented through practice. Natalia Spokoinyi not just breaks down the theoretical points, all of them are always complemented by and dissected through many examples of the constellations that Natalia did herself, or from her teachers’ experience. Students review the recordings of a lot of these constellations later on, analyze and dissect them. It gives an amazingly deep understanding of the intricacies of how the core principles of the Systemic Constellations work!
In addition to all of this for a more complete consolidation of theory during the course, all students write several term papers. This is a difficult, serious work, in which we need to analyze both the theoretical knowledge that we have received on the course, and to break down interesting practical examples.
Many of the term papers are group projects, and this kind of work takes a lot of time and requires a lot of diligence and attentiveness. Such in-depth work with material often brings out personal dynamics, blind spots come out, old traumas rise again… This is a real challenge, even for the most diligent students. But it gives everyone the opportunity to work with all of these personal problems right away, while they’re “hot”.
It’s amazing how each lesson brings up something new and interesting, both in terms of knowledge and in the sphere of working on myself. I’m looking forward to the supervisions and the amazing new discoveries they will bring me.
I would like to express my deepest gratitude to Natalia Spokooiniy for such a unique learning experience and the powerful, confident entry into the new profession!
Maria Kyntoyarova, Yakutsk
The online course on “Systemic constellation and trauma therapy” is coming to an end. I would like to note the huge difference between the me who came on this course at the very beginning and me now. This course is really transformational, strengthening spirit, character and endurance. In addition, I solved many of my problems during the course. I would like to express my great gratitude to our teacher Natalia Spokoinyi for this training, for the time and effort given to us and for the experience she gave us.
Our classes were held once a week for 6-7 hours. In addition, we studied with fellow students out of class. We had a lot of homework: several complex coursework, transcriptions, analysis of constellation, reports on constellations, on classes, on the course itself. I even had an image of knowledge clawing its way into our brains.
Our classes consisted mainly of practice. We carried out constellations for each other, and we also had real clients. Natalia talks about her teaching method as follows: “This is when they teach a person to swim and throw him straight to the depths, and he somehow swims out.” So did we, from the first classes, we immediately immersed ourselves in the practice of constellations. Yes, it was very difficult in the beginning. At first, Natalia often told me that I felt dynamics differently from her or other students, and accordingly I worked suboptimally in the constellation. But at some point I had a shift, and I began to succeed. I felt more confident in this field, and Natalia noticed my successes and even began to praise.
We also studied the theory of constellation. We were given the relevant literature, something we studied in class, we learned a lot during transcriptions and writing courseworks. In my opinion, Natalia presents theoretical material very interesting, and this is due to the fact that she is a mathematician in the first education and a theologian in the second. Therefore, we studied the constellations from a scientific and spiritual point of view, which was very useful.
During the course, each student had to go through two personal constellations. I had my first constellation in April on the request “What can I do to transform into my resource the unpleasant symptoms that I have during my speech in public and conflict.” At that time, I was amazed by the outcome of the constellation, everything was so clear that it shocked me. And the most wonderful thing is that I stopped feeling those symptoms. At first it was scary that everything could come back, but Natalia told me what to do if suddenly this happens and added that this was unlikely to happen. I still have to have the second constellation.
I am very glad and even grateful to myself that I chose this institute for training. Learning was not easy and simple, so it is valuable. And I really liked Natalia’s phrase about teaching us: “It’s important to me that you work efficiently and can withstand the hard.” In this phrase, I saw the meaning of our training and how Natalia is rooting and worried about us. I really want to achieve such a level of professionalism to help as many people as possible and be as useful as possible to this world.
Melek Saylan Astana Turkey
I would like to share with you my impressions of the year-long course I learned from Natalia Spokoyniy. I was looking very carefully for training in order to get really practical and extensive knowledge in all areas that would be relevant to my work.
Natalia has a good and special approach to each student. She answers all questions and provides a lot of information. She is really professional and has a lot to learn from her. She gives the lessons at a very high level. Everything is structured, documented and at any moment you can see the material you have learned in the video recordings of each lesson.
The main difference of the course is the abundance of independent practice under Natalia’s supervised guidance. We get almost step-by-step support for our work, enabling us to quickly start practicing on our own.
Natalia teaches us numerous author’s methods of hers.
Orientation of the constellation field to the client’s Highest Value (God, the Highest, Source of Life, Universe, Destiny, etc.).
Work with her author’s BEMS-Model (Body-Emotions-Mind-Spirit) to restore the integrity of the personality after severe trauma.
The author’s format of constellation for working with any conflict – interpersonal or intrapersonal. Her format consists of 4 figures: both sides of the conflict (Figures A and B), the Conflict itself as a Symptom and the Big System including both sides of the conflict and its cause.
And many more of Natalia’s own methods are incorporated into the training process.
For me at first it was almost impossible to comprehend such a volume, to learn, write, and understand everything. I even lost weight and it was hard to sleep, but later as time went on, I realized that Natalia’s German discipline really organized me both physically and mentally, somehow even my brain started to work differently.
It is very important to keep repeating, teaching and not being shy about asking. Everything will work out! Constellations work very well in difficult situations and not only in the family and kin, but also in business and organizations.
I was able to work through my problems with Natalia’s constellations and learn a lot from other constellations where I have been in different roles and have been a constellator myself. I am very grateful to her for that.
I have an unforgettable impression from my two constellations because it was like a miracle, something incredible. When you ask a question in a constellation on one topic and you are led to completely incomprehensible stories and events that came “out of thin air”, you go into a kind of brain freeze. I couldn’t come to my senses for a few days. The essence and understanding came on the third or fourth day, after which so many different feelings and emotions burst out of me that I could not stop them. But what a relief and special understanding came after that! When I told my children about it, they sat with their mouths open and looked as if they were watching an interesting film.
The main thing is that Natalia is always very attentive, prudent, able to wait, to prompt, to guide. It’s as if she knows the script, but she always helped me to feel for myself, to understand the reason and the course of the constellation.
Natalya has a talent for talking about difficult things in simple language, she has a great sense of humour, a huge amount of knowledge and an endless love for people. During the course I understood the effectiveness of the constellations, which help me to grow personally, to understand myself, my family, relationships, to improve my life and the life of my family, to heal wounds, problems, traumas, illnesses, to set up my business for success. Very interesting, useful and important information and training you will receive in a year from Natalia. You will learn how to work on your own in constellations.
Berestova Aleksandra, Lisbon, Portugal
During the course I see the changes in my life in several areas: my personal life, my professional life and my inner sense of self. This is important to me because it shows that the IIS Berlin course is first and foremost about holistic well-being and how to get there.
I originally joined the course because I already work as a psychologist and transformational coach. I already used systemic constellations as a tool in my work, but I wanted to go to another level of work with systems. So I came into the process of learning and working on myself during the course with requests related to my professional field.
But already before the first constellation for me in the client position, thanks to Natasha’s clarifications, we reached a request in the personal sphere. In the end, during the course I worked on improving my professional skills as a systemic constellator and on solving my personal requests for health, relationships and fears at the same time.
Changes in my personal sphere and condition:
- I realized that all my fears in relationships were actually related to my fear of pregnancy. All the bodily symptoms I brought to the constellations also turned out to be about this fear. It was very important and resourceful to notice it.
- I can now think and talk about children. My man proposed to me and we started talking about a future together where we, children and Life exist.
And the changes in my professional field are a consequence of my changed state of mind:
- I used to work only in individual counseling, but now I started group work, because I can comfortably be in a more powerful and large-scale Field, which has increased my income, as constellations are expensive.
- I have implemented the systemic constellation tool in all my services and products.
- I realized that I am ready to develop in the field of perinatal psychology, I am not afraid of it, on the contrary, I am interested. I want this qualification.
I would like to write separately about the learning process. The course has a lot of extensive assignments. And it is very valuable that at each stage Natasha explains and accompanies in detail. And so it turns out that every task is very therapeutic. For example, I had a transcription of a constellation, which was very relevant to my situation, and it was useful to take it apart. Not only from the point of view of gaining a professional skill, although that is important too. When you write a transcription, you see in detail how each participant reacts and this experience helps a lot in the future work. But also from the point of view of personal work with the request.
There is a lot of practice in the course, we do at least one constellation in each session. We analyse in detail the algorithm for working with different client cases on real live clients. This is valuable.
Reports on half of the online course “Systemic Constellation and trauma therapy” class 2022, 9th stream
Dmitri Blizniuc, Chisinau
For me, half of the online course, one might say, flew by, the training took place in such an intensive mode that I didn’t have time to look back, as we were already at the “equator”. It would seem that online learning – you sit in a warm chair in front of the monitor and sip coffee, learn everything calmly as if you are watching a series – is probably how most people imagine it. But this is a huge misconception! I also have a higher education in another field, which I received by attending all the lectures in person, and I can tell you that this training was kindergarten for me compared to how I am now learning systemic constellations online.
Systemic constellations were a new and practically unknown area for me, so at first, I had to concentrate as much as possible and delve into the material. From the very first lesson, I almost immediately plunged into practice, the whole further course is a lot of practice. The knowledge I received was literally hammered into the brain, so after 4-5 lessons I began to feel more confident practising in groups with other students, and systemic constellations began to captivate me even more.The theory, including books of psychology, which I read before online course, I perceived with my head rationally. And the practice, carried out according to the method of Natalia, makes you feel with your whole body everything that is written in a huge number of books, and this, of course, is an irreplaceable experience.
Coaching exists as a full-fledged specialty, and in systemic constellations, coaching is only part of a huge area that includes other specialties as well. Before training, I thought that the client comes to the constellator with a specific request, with which the work in the constellation immediately begins. In fact, it turned out not to be so. Very rarely, a client formulates his request in such a way that he can immediately go in constellation with it, and often clients come without a request at all, just with a set of accumulated problems. This is where coaching comes in handy more than ever. Coaching, which we practise in online classes, helps the client to come to the true problem that he really cares about, and helps to clearly articulate the request. Valuable experience.
Working in the constellation already directly in the role taught me to feel my body, to respond to the smallest details that at first glance do not have much meaning. You follow your breath, your tone of voice, any movements that might be useful in your work. I also learned a lot of new things about my system, which is the foundation on the way to a happy life. I expressed my gratitude to my ancestors, and most importantly, I realised the value of my life.
I cannot fail to note the large amount of homework, term papers, reports and other written work that constantly develop and keep me in good shape, which undoubtedly affects my positive results in practice. Any work, even at first glance seemingly optional, ultimately plays an important role in learning.
The most important thing, in my opinion, for the sake of which they go to learn systemic constellations, is work with traumas. And in this first half of the online course, I managed to work not only with the traumas of clients, other students (under the clear guidance of Natalia, of course), but also with my own traumas. This was very helpful, because the correct working of trauma leads to impressive positive changes in life. And I had the good fortune to experience these changes myself.
Berestova Aleksandra, Lisbon, Portugal
The first thing I want to write about is how the process works:
- We always work out the whole theory in practice. In each class we do a constellation for someone in the group, external clients and so on. And then we discuss it, we look at the important points.
- Before the constellation itself, special attention is paid to the coaching of the client before the constellation, so that the request, which the participant or client comes with, becomes systemic.
- The parallel process of learning is PIR-group, we meet once a week to practise the received material among ourselves. And after class, we deal with complicated cases.
- Natalya pays attention to every question from the group members and is always in touch for clarification if something is unclear.
- Since we all participate in the process not only as students, but also in the role of a client, there is powerful personal work. Which is very valuable.
- It is very intensive in knowledge and at the same time a comfortable learning process.
What are the Results and what has already been done:
- I was in the role of a client on my personal constellation. Ahead of me is the second one and I feel very powerful changes and readiness to go further.
- I have done 5 constellations for my clients and got feedback ,with the value of my work on 9/10. Rated 9, because 10 is hard to carry and you need to digest the whole powerful process that happened. For me, it’s about the professional learning gained from the training.
- I notice changes in my private practice in general, as the sensitivity and ability to «feel» the figures even if not in the constellation work is very much opened and strengthened.
With gratitude and readiness to move on. Thank you.
Gudovskaya Yana, Moscow
Before I knew it, I was halfway through the course. I want to sum it up:
- I became more familiar with my own family system and its dynamics.
- I can definitely say that I feel more confident while I’m coaching and conducting a constellation, and I’m ready to start my own practice.
- Several important instructions were written and put into practice: on dealing with abortions/miscarriages/frozen pregnancies, and on what to do if a constellator/representative is stuck in a role.
- I learned how to properly formulate and say resolution phrases; and what to do if a client has devalued a constellation.
- I learned a lot about the symptom of organization and how it can be transformed into a resource, by analysing an organizational constellation in detail.
- Natalya personally checks all the practical work and gives feedback on it, and it helps us adjust our work in the future.
- Natalia pays special attention to teaching students how to efficiently coach a client before a constellation. With each lesson I add more and more questions for coaching to my collection of knowledge. These questions help clients formulate their requests more clearly, and so yield even greater results from their constellation.
I can point out that Natalia teaches us to work as efficiently as possible, to get to the heart of the problem in the minimum time, so that the client will get the maximum benefit in a short period of time. And that is very valuable!
Working in PIR groups is very valuable to me. I was lucky enough to work with some of the students from our course, and I notice how the girls are developing their professionalism, and it inspires me a lot.
I would also like to note that it is rather difficult for me to study on this course, as the work of mastering the new specialty coincided with the ancestral dynamics, which is now beginning to unravel gradually. So I would like to express my gratitude to Natalia, who is not only a teacher, but also a mentor on this path.
Maria Kintoyarova, Yakutsk
During the half of the course we have completed, Natalia introduced us to such topics as: System, representative perception, the laws of the System, what we need to say to the client before constellation, what the result of the constellation depends on, how to work with any problem with oneself, how to formulate a request correctly, considered in detail the concept of Symptom and how to work with it, as well as the topic of the dynamics of twins, aborted children and miscarriages. Natalia’s comments on many concepts that we touched upon are also very valuable.
Also during this time, we wrote 2 course works on the topics “Christian Forgiveness” and “Symptom of organization”, the writing and analysis of which helped us to better and deeper understand what Systemic Constellation, the sequence of work and many other nuances are.
During the classes, my classmates and I independently carried out constellations for each other under the supervision of Natalia. It was my first time of carrying out the constellation and it was a little exciting for me, but I felt Natalia’s support, she guided and suggested where it was needed.If before I had felt something was incomprehensible, afterwards the experience that i needed to feel internally that it is quite possible to comprehend the constellation.
We have already carried out 4 independent practical work outside of classes. Natalia divided us into groups in which we worked with each other’s requests. The first practice was Systemic coaching, and the rest of the practices already with elements of constellation. The task of the last practice was an individual setting, that is, when the constellater gets into all roles of the constellation.
We had two real clients during classes, one of whom was concerned about her atopic dermatitis and its impact on the child she wore, the other concerned about building harmonious relationship in a couple.
In April, I was given a personal constellation on request: What can I do to transform the unpleasant symptoms I experience during the conflict and public speaking. I can say that I already feel the result, it is such happiness, I cannot stop thanking Natalia for the miracle I felt.
Victoria Jung, Düsseldorf, Germany
Half of our education with Natalia Spokoynaya has already passed. We are already more experienced and trained. Everyone has already got a personal constellation during this time, and some got even several, as in the classes we work with topical requests of students and train to conduct constellations for each other. Personal constellations are important as they are not just a real therapy, but also an opportunity to “be in a client’s shoes”. I believe that such experience is necessary, as it allows you to understand what works and what does not, feel your strengths and weaknesses and develop your own individual style as a future constellations specialist.
A significant work for me was my constellation about my eye disease. On the one hand, this would seem obvious, because the Health topic is always an important one for any person, but on the other hand, this is also a good example of working with complicated family dynamics, with trauma, psychosomatics, and also an example of the impeccable resonance of representatives. I want to note that in all the personal constellations of the students there were difficult dynamics associated with the non-ecological behavior of the members of their genus. But the group and Natalia, as a constellator, managed to carefully examine them and resolve them non-traumatically. I think that after such strong work, all students will see significant changes in their lives.
Another important and interesting point in training is that Natalia periodically invites real clients to our classes, where students have the opportunity to be a constellator. This is an important experience, especially for those who already want to practice. The difference from the common constellations between students in our group is that the atmosphere is more tensed, because there is a time limit, which Natalia is very careful about.
We discussed the topic of abortion and unborn twins at a theoretical lesson, and we had our homework – to write the correct text of resolving phrases for such dynamics. In fact, these are two of the most important topics, since abortion, according to Natalia’s opinion, is perhaps a greatly underestimated dynamic, and the presence of unborn twins in general can most often be determined only in the constellation.
Now we continue with practical classes, but we are no longer limited just to coaching, we also do now short constellations to each other. It is clear that this is not a full constellation, but even such short tests help us to at least determine the direction for analysing, and sometimes even give answers or highlight something important or difficult in the situation.
It is a joy to see how students begin to make progress. And this progress is very noticeable: just yesterday they were worried about the fact that they still knew little, and today they are already doing constellations for invited clients. It is most often difficult for us to assess ourselves impartially, but we can clearly see the progress of our colleagues, which means we are moving in the right direction.
And now we are waiting for the second half of training and for some new challenges.
Yeva Ugurludogan, Izmir Turkey
Halfway through the course at the International Institute for Systemic Constellation (IIS-Berlin) has passed. We saw the dynamics of abortion and unborn twins. We studied the serious topic of unborn children. It came to us that it is important to let them go and make room in your heart.
The bottom line is this. Let’s say when you were still an embryo, you had a twin brother. And then it happened that he had to sacrifice himself for your life. You would most probably be haunted by sadness and guilt and the feeling of not living your life. I have observed this kind of thing in the work of a fellow student of mine who was one of these twins. As she claims, she felt better after studying the topic.
It is important to recognise these unborn children, to give them a place in the System: both when they are your brother or sister and when you are the unborn parents of twins. And parents may not experience the full extent of their feelings and pass on the oppressive sadness to their grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Generally speaking, everything that concerns children in the constellation system is invariably reflected in our money and projects. As plots and businesses are also our children.
Abortion used to be considered commonplace and there was no time to mourn the unborn. Almost every family had many children, and women worked all the time. No one knew that they had to grieve for the little lives that had been lost prematurely. If the client feels the tension in his or her situation and sees problems in his or her own children, they need to make room in their heart. Then it often becomes easier for them, their children and the generations that follow.
I have learned to be guided by Spiritual Values, to see how much (in degrees of deviation from the Highest Will) the request is true. That is, the Facilitator turns to the Will of the Highest Spiritual Values by how many degrees this statement or this choice was true . And the closer the choice to the Highest Will is, the more accurate is the Client’s request. The position of the body is always true. The body can never lie as Spiritual Values are the foundation. It also allows focusing on what is most important. In the constellation a person is reminded of God and about Truth.
The group and I have been studying the BEMS-Model – BODY-EMOTIONS-MIND-SPIRIT-Model in detail. It is a 4-part BEMS-Model for restoring personal integrity after severe trauma. The BEMS-Model is designed to test and restore integrity between our internal parts. It allows us to quickly recover from trauma, transform it into a resource and not have to deal with years of therapy. I have also learned the elements of implementation and how to work with this model in an organisation (there is such a concept – “trauma or a symptom of the organisation”). This approach restores relationships in the organisation and enables each member to take their place.
I had a personal job associated with depression. Fortunately, I came out of it. Admittedly, the exit and recovery process was hard and stressful. Then it was bad for a long time. But I guess the result was worth the effort.
I cannot say anything about the result of the test work as it was done for my mother. She has a problem with her retina, which started to detach due to a head injury. The conclusion of the test was the information about a doctor to look for in Moscow. But my mother never went to see that doctor. Probably because she did not follow the recommendations of the constellation she had to undergo so many operations. If we don’t follow the recommendations from the constellation, we pay for our Choice.
What did I learn in the class? It is about defending my point of view, have conflicts, not letting someone else take my mother’s place. And I also learnt how to build boundaries and openly show my disagreement. Perhaps this was a really unique course. I’m grateful to myself for standing up to the challenge. Thank you.
Reports on the first block of the course, class 2022, 9th stream
Gudovskaya Yana, Moscow
As I finish the first part of the course, I want to write about the changes I’ve had.
Despite all the contradictions and obstacles on my path, when I made the decision to buy this course, internally I was 100% sure that it was a step into my new life. It worked out just like that!
On the course, every lesson is a practice: practice in coaching, practice in Systemic Constellations, practice in reading the Field, and practice in working with a client. Every week we learn something new! And every time I learn something new about myself: the reasons for my behavior in this or that situation, the cause-and-effect relationship of events occurring in my life, how the relationships in my family change, how those around me change their attitude toward me, etc. At some points I see real miracles that happen after constellations.
In my case, it was the relationship with my husband. Before the course I had a lot of thoughts about divorce, but after several constellations I started to see our relationship differently, realizing that we can start moving towards a new life together! I reconsidered my role in the family, understood the reasons for the discrepancies in our union, and realized what points I still needed to look at and work on.
The second aspect of the changes concerned my personal transformation and values in life. I decided to leave my previous job and the field of employment where I had worked for more than 15 years, and devote my future life to the Systemic Constellations. I believe it is one of the quickest and most effective ways to look at any problem, at its cause and ways to solve it. And when, after a constellation your behavior towards the situation or the person becomes different, when your views change, new desires and thoughts, new discoveries emerge – you begin to believe in miracles!
Miracles begin as early as when you observe the work of the morphogenetic field. For instance, when in another student’s constellation, the important moments that you need to look at are echoed and illuminated. You are literally placed into the role of the representative for the figure you need to work with in your own family system. When you stand in the role of a representative, you feel your own trauma. And as you say the resolving phrases, you simultaneously say them to your own father, not just to the client’s. And so, while resolving another person’s request, you live through your own physical catharsis.
Practical work with classmates gives you confidence, and an extra push to start your own practice. And all of this was done in 10 classes!
On the 4th lesson already, a real client came to us and we helped him solve his problem! I am focused on achieving a total transformation, and I know for sure that I’ve come to the right place!
Maria Kintoyarova, Yakutsk
We got a lot of information, knowledge and skills during these first classes. We have studied such concepts as – system, representative perception, the laws of the system, what you need to say to the client before constellation, what the result of the constellation depends on, as well as how you can work with any problem.
At the beginning of each lesson, as well as after the constellation and at the end of the lesson, we make a so-called “circle”, during which we, students, coach each other and give feedback on the constellation and the whole lesson. The circle helps a lot to consolidate the experience gained, as well as to work out yourself during coaching. It is also very important that we have learned to correctly formulate our requests and symptoms, which play a key role in the constellation.
In many classes, we have already held constellations for some students, as well as the constellation for a real client. Natalia gives very capacious remarks and comments during the constellation, which explain to us what this or that action, question or phrase for.
I want to write something personal. My last request during the circle was: What can I do to start breathing full nose and chest in every sense? The fact is that I am sometimes tormented by the congestion of the nose of an incomprehensible nature. A couple of days after class, I had a dream that it was happening to me because someone drowned in my family. In the morning I woke up with an incredible insight, I would never have thought. My dad’s younger brother, my uncle drowned. I will definitely discuss it in the next class with Natalia and my classmates.
Natalia is a high-class professional both an constellater-therapist and a teacher. Each lesson is very informative and exciting. It’s a great luck for me that I study here.
During my training I learned about the author ‘s method of the 4- part model “Body-Emotion-Mind-Spirit” by Natalia Spokoinyi. Working on this model helps to gently enter the client’s system, look together with him or her at the trauma that caused the symptom and transform it into a resource. Trauma always splits the wholeness. 4-part model helps to look at the wholeness of an organization and quickly find the true cause of the trauma as well as understand how to find the necessary resources. In the organization, trauma splits the internal parts: Body, Emotions, Intellect and Spirit. When using the 4-part model, you immediately understand what to do and where to go, everything becomes clear.
During this time I did two constellations. I enjoyed being the facilitator, it was incredibly interesting. I realized that a facilitator is a versatile person who is successful in many areas. First, it’s about time management. A facilitator has to manage time properly and manage to get more done in less time, even when time is limited and pressure is high.
Secondly, a facilitator can be compared to a film director. Under his or her guidance, roles are assigned and figures of representatives play their role during a constellation. The basis of a constellation is a life scenario authored by a client.
Third, a facilitator must be able to think strategically and see things in perspectives. This ability helps a facilitator identify points that are not obvious or confusing to a client.
Fourth, a facilitator belongs to the category of highly sensitive people or, as they say, people with “thin skin”. Highly sensitive people have keen sense of elusive environments, they see details and understand what is going on without words. Hypersensitive people develop creative abilities because of their characteristics. This allows a facilitator to be in all roles during a constellation without any problems.
I took the opportunity to participate in the Аcademy, where you can make statements about important things that are happening in the world. It helps me to identify global trends and get an objective picture of what is happening in the world. With the help of the Аcademy, we make the world around us better and more harmonious.
Natalia did the constellation for me about my fear of flying, which is related to flying in airplanes. We are all part of our family, extension of our family. I hadn’t even thought of that before. I thought I was alone. In my constellation, I found loving and warm memories of my beloved grandmother Tonya and learned a little about my great-grandmother’s life. Unfortunately, before the course, I did not know my family’s history. Thanks to the course I started to learn a little bit about my family and I have already created a simple genogram of my family. Now I have the goal to learn all the information about my family in detail. For me it was the first constellation in my life. I really appreciate all the information and resources from my constellation. Many thanks for my constellation to all who participated. For me, this is invaluable work that Natalia and my colleagues have done.
Many thanks to Natalia Spokoinyi for working on my constellation, supporting and helping me to overcome my inner resistance. Natalia will always find time and words to give support and wise advice in difficult situations.
Victoria Jung, Düsseldorf, Germany
I was familiar with constellations even before meeting Natalia. At first I came to the constellations as a client with my own requests. I really liked the method itself, but it was very difficult to find a good, professional and trustworthy specialist.
At some point, I decided that I needed to study. It is because I really believe that constellations are the most effective method of working through issues nowadays, and it will also become even more popular in the future. And then I faced another difficult choice – where to study. All sources of knowledge seemed unreliable to me, it seemed that they either studied the method superficially, or added something of their own there. I was lucky – I found Natalya Spokoynaya.
I came here specifically for fundamental knowledge of constellations, because Natalia had the best teachers, and in fact took knowledge from the original source. This is always appreciated in the profession and actually creates a competitive advantage for a specialist.
Nevertheless, Natalia has her own style – her own developed system, approach. This is a kind of multidimensional constellation, as if a 3D model, where several plot scenarios are intertwined. This makes the study deeper and takes it to a new level.
Natalia always gives more practice, much more than you can get in other schools. Here I am talking about both practice and theory, built on real cases from her experience.
We started practicing right away. Everything that Natalya explains to us, we immediately bring to real cases, Natalya believes in her students, motivates them immediately to start to do constellations under her supervision. Therefore, students very quickly begin to gain hours of experience without staying too long in theory.
Thus, it turns out that at each lesson we are either a constellator ourselves, or we are in some role. Usually the roles also always resonate with some kind of internal request, so the course is a kind of personal therapy. Each session is like going to a psychologist – an opportunity to look deep into yourself and work through your traumas and dynamics. Only it is much faster and more efficient.
I already had a personal constellation on a very important topic for me – my daughter’s dermatitis. It is interesting that I already did the constellation for this request with another specialist. I believe that she also helped, but this time we managed to go further and recognized the heavy burden of my family – unborn and dead children. It turned out that in my family there was a very large number of unborn and even excluded children, they definitely had to be accepted so that this would not affect me and my daughters. Everything that the representatives said resonated with me, and the scale of the impact of this dynamic was amazing. At some point, it seemed that the constellation had reached a dead end, but Natalia professionally invested the necessary energy to reach the correct interpretation. After a short time, I already saw positive changes on my daughter’s skin.
I also wanted to note the incredible resonance between the students in our group. The way we feel in roles and our assumptions always match. This becomes possible because of the talent of the students, but also because of the comfortable trusting atmosphere in the group.
An interesting and new discovery for me was short test constellations. Often, for students, we test the best possible options in a given situation. I also got a test on the need to move to another city for my family. I want to say that in fact this is a serious help in making any difficult life-changing decisions.
It is important to do homework in this course. This is not necessary in all schools, but here it is. Homework helps to analyze and once again feel the material you have learned, and also teaches you to notice the smallest important details of the constellations, which are often turning points in the process.
And finally, Natalia creates a very strong professional space. She knows how to gather talented students and professionals around her, as well as clients with incredibly interesting cases.It is not for everyone, and I think it works here because Natalia herself is a real professional.
I am very glad to study here, soon – more! Thank you.
Yeva Ugurludogan, Izmir Turkey
I have been looking for a long time for a quality certified education which can give enough information on systemic constellations. I have been familiar with the method of systemic constellations for about five years. Personally for me it is a powerful boost in my life, a positive change in my environment, adaptation in a new country. The method allows me to improve my relationship with my family, to better understand myself and others. Thanks to it I got a new profession.
On the course I get a lot of useful information that I need as a facilitator. I get into important details for work with the Soul and Subconsciousness of a person. And this is such a subtle matter! The classes teach us to ask questions, to want more, to always have a ready request for work. They prepare us to see requests with more energy. And also to save time and ask the client so as to see the important thing that allows you to solve the request.
In the second session I formed my request about the fear of public speaking. And it all worked out so that I was on duty, conducted the constellation and even was a representative for the main roles. It turned out that I was in the public eye throughout the session and didn’t experience any excitement or discomfort. And then I realised that public speaking is safe.
For me the constellation of Trauma became useful. And it was really hard work under the guidance of Natalia Spokoynyi. After all, it is important to understand how deeply a constellator can get to the root and essence of the Client’s problem. And how to understand HOW much the Client is ready to cope with his or her acceptance of the result of the constellation.
In the course I became familiar with the orientation of the field of constellation to the Highest Values of the Client. And this is one of the features invented by Natalia herself. Besides, I got Natalia’s view of what is essentially Christian Forgiveness. And how you can and should really forgive. I will definitely use this knowledge in my future work and practice. All this was new to me.
German systematicity, pedantry and discipline were important for me. The way I see it, success is based on continuity, which you have to demand first of all from yourself. I am sure this system will help me to keep track of my clients and their progress in detail.
For me small training groups where the trainer is involved in the education process as much as possible are important. Then it is difficult to miss something meaningful. There should be a lot of reflection and practice in such groups. And a detailed analysis of workshops and constellations under the guidance of a teacher allows you to learn the method at a high quality level. This is the uniqueness and intellectual power of IIS-Berlin.